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The allure of older women – why men love a cougar

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The allure of older women – why men love a cougar

By: Hugh Wilson


It's often said that women are attracted to an older man. A more recent phenomenon seems to be men falling for the allure of an older woman. MSN Him reveals why men are attracted to older women - cougars.


According to science, men shouldn't really be attracted to older women. Evolution has primed men to fancy the most healthy, fertile women. For 'healthy and fertile', science would have you read 'young'. Evolutionary biologists are adamant: men want to date women the same age or younger than themselves.


Which begs one simple question: why are so many men attracted to older women?


The cougar phenomenon
We've all heard about the phenomenon of the cougar - an older woman who deliberately sets out to date younger men. We all know about celebrity cougars like Demi Moore and her relationship with Ashton Kutcher. We've all heard of toy boys.


And statistics show that this is not just a media invention. The BBC has reported that 25% of older women are married to younger men. In America, 30% of older women date men who are younger than themselves.


So it's certainly happening. We're not questioning the motives, either. The only question that interests us - from a man's point of view - is why?


Older women look younger these days
First of all, none of this disproves the theory that we are genetically hardwired to fancy young women. There may be a growing number of older-woman-younger-man relationships, but the inverse is still far more common.


Men do tend to want young women, and young women do appreciate the experience and resources older men can offer.


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But as far as our evolutionary instincts are concerned, it has become far more difficult to spot an older woman. Healthy eating and all those zumba classes, as well as sophisticated beauty regimes and botox, mean older women look suspiciously like younger ones, certainly to our subconscious scanners.


Older women can behave younger
They're also more likely to behave like younger women, which can confuse any right-thinking man. 'These women are alive, vibrant, want to dance, love current music, technology, exercise and eat healthier,' says psychologist Dr Fayr Barkley, an expert on cougar relationships. 'They want a younger man who can keep up with them.'


In a nutshell, many older women look great and are full of vim, so what's not to fancy?


There's also the possibility that some younger men are playing out the psychosexual imprinting that happened years earlier. That sounds complex, but it simply means that a much-loved babysitter, nursery teacher or family friend may have planted a seed that blossoms today as a penchant for older women.


Biology isn't everything
Experts also suggest that, though biology is important, it isn't everything. We can override our hardwiring if the goal is important enough. And to a growing number of young men, a sophisticated and sexy older woman is so attractive a proposition that it puts callow youth and shallow beauty in the shade.


To some very young men, the attraction might simply be based on an adolescent Mrs Robinson fantasy that hasn't gone away. Mrs Robinson is Dustin Hoffman's older seductress in the film The Graduate.


'The younger men fall into one of two categories,' says Barkley. 'The first is what I have termed 'The Myth of Stifler's Mom' after the movie American Pie. These are younger men who think the mature woman exists to somehow fulfil their adolescent male sexual fantasies.'


And that, she says, is unlikely to happen. Contrary to popular opinion, older women want far more from their younger boyfriends than energetic sex. And apparently, they have plenty of choice.


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H 12:44 PM

I am a 51 year old woman and I am ONLY attracted to younger men from early 20s to late 30s.

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Mary 8:36 AM

I'm a 40something ( recently) single woman who has been wondering what's up with the 20something guys .... This explains a lot! Life sure is crazy !!

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You haven't really thought about what may be the driving force in nature, desire and evolution these days. Maybe young men don't desire to procreate as much as they needed/wanted to years ago. Survival = a smart experienced woman.

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I'm looking for a younger women that can keep up with me.... the last 2 girl friends were 3 to 4 yrs. younger and couldn't keep up with my bedroom gymnastics. Maybe I should try a older women but I'm prob. to old for a cougar

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