By: May Rostom

Ever since we were little kids, we didn’t stop imagining ourselves in that puffy white gown, the long lace veil, and the huge hair up-do. Even when Mr. Right wasn’t in the picture because he didn’t come along yet, he’d often be replaced with Tom Cruise or any equivalently hot super star wearing that un-believably elegant, black tuxedo WE picked out for them (in our head of course).

We’d hum “here comes the bride”, throw the bouquet, and let our friends carry mum’s white cotton sheet “veil” as we played the wedding game in the garden on Fridays. All of these actions eventually build up towards the single most important day of our lives, our wedding day therefore validating any reason behind being so...Extra-Terrestrial. Consuming our thoughts, wearing us out, and turning us into Monsters whenever something goes wrong are just consequences of that build up.

Bridezilla Syndrome often includes a couple of symptoms like:
• Anger tantrums at people who try to help you
• Over eating due to high levels of stress
• Over consumption of alcohol or coffee, whichever has easier access
• High attention to detail, to a very obnoxious extent
• High pitched voice whenever something goes out of line
• Finger pointing upon giving instructions
• Excessive use of the F word. And no, it’s not “Fun”!

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These of course were just to mention a few, but the list could go on forever. You know you’re in trouble when your local pharmacist starts offering you “something to calm you down before the big day” (aka Prozac), or when your fiancé threatens to call the cops on you. At that point STOP. Just STOP whatever it is you’re doing and take a deep breath. You are getting married; marriage is not just the 3-hour spotlight you’ll be in that whole day.

Marriage is a commitment to spend the rest of your life (which is A LOT more than 3—hours FYI) with the person that’ll be standing there on the altar. Marriage is agreeing to push your limits for someone you know would do the same for you. It doesn’t matter what color the flower centerpieces are, what your bridesmaids will be wearing, nor what you’ll be handing out as favors that day.

What really matters is, do you want to spend the rest of your life with your fiancé, experience good things together, laugh, fight, cry together, and ignore each other on days when you both are out of mood? Do you see this person as a good parent for your children? Do you simply want to leave everything behind for them? This My friend, is what you should be taking care of, not flowers, nor stationary...

Just marriage, not a wedding.

If this is what you want, then let go of all the fuss and enjoy the fact that you found your other half. Embrace the moment you two will unite in holy matrimony. Thank god for leading you to your destiny in the right time. Get over your disease, forget about the symptoms, and work towards a cure before turning you into your own worst enemy !

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